Transgenderism Encourages Rigid Gender Stereotypes

This is what I’m always on about. The problem with gender identity is that it’s largely based on a social construct of what it means to be “male” or “female”.  If I am biologically male but I believe my gender is female, what is it about me that makes me feel female on the inside? What defines the difference between feeling male and feeling female?

Much of it, I am convinced, relies on what society tells us are the requirements to be male or female. Look at those gender identity tests such as COGIATI and SAGE, which ask you a series of questions about your personality traits and abilities to score how masculine or feminine you are. Answer with too many “girly” answers, and you’ll be told that you are a good candidate for hormone replacement therapy (HRT) with or without sex reassignment surgery (SRS).

So these tests, and others like them, assume that if you are good at math you have the mind of a boy; if you are good at reading facial expressions you have the mind of a girl. I have battled this for years, almost believing it when I was younger and let other people tell me what to think. I like to wear dresses; I tend to be more nurturing and sympathetic than my male friends; I cry more easily; I prefer games and leisure activities that involve the mind more than the physical body (i.e. roleplaying games and puzzles). I even enjoy singing show tunes. To this day people in the transgender community tell me I’m just denying the truth that I am transgender, that I must have a strong inner desire to be a woman, that I’d be so much happier if I’d admit that I’m really a girl and go all the way with surgery.

To them I say, poppycock. I love being a man. There is nothing about my nonstandard traits that says by law I must be a woman. What kind of backward century do we live in where men and women are forced into rigidly defined rules for how they must behave?

So I can fully sympathize (another “females only” trait) with this young lady who is perfectly happy being the girl she was born as, who happens to choose doing things that society insists are activities for boys. You go, girl!

Lisa Selin Davis: My Daughter Is Not Transgender, She’s A Tomboy

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Crossdressing Under the Sea

An unexpected place to find crossdressing humour is Jim Toomey’s excellent comic strip Sherman’s Lagoon.

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If I Were a Toy

A user on Skirt Cafe mentioned a TV commercial running in the UK about a boy fantasizing what he could do if he were a toy. Among other toys, in a brief scene he finds himself wearing a pink dress for “queen of the land” and waving at adoring subjects before moving on to more traditional boy activities.
I love the perplexed look on his face, as though he’s thinking “Why on earth am I in a dress? Oh well, might as well make a go of it and see what happens!”

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Her Boyfriend’s Hemline

You know your blog is getting stale when it’s over a year between new posts.

Anyhow, I recently discovered the hilarious new(ish) comic strip by Norm Feuti about life in retail sales. Today’s strip hit rather close to home for me:

I can’t tell you how frustrating it is when I’m looking for a comfortable dress and everything is knee length or shorter. Of course just finding something in my gargantuan size in the first place is a struggle, so beggars can’t be choosers.

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Crossdressing Advice From Bart Simpson

Haven’t done any crossdressing comics for a while, so here’s one from the Simpsons episode “Bart’s New Friend”

At school the kids are organizing a game of tag that involves players crawling between one another’s legs. Milhouse looks down and observes sadly, “I guess I chose the wrong day to wear culottes.”

Every day's the wrong day to wear culottes

Every day’s the wrong day to wear culottes

I agree with Bart’s response: EVERY day is the wrong day to wear culottes. If you’re going to wear something that looks like a skirt, just wear a skirt! Although it looks from this picture like Milhouse was indeed wearing a nice pleated regular skirt, rather than culottes. Get your fashion terminology right, Simpsons writers!

This isn’t the first time they made that mistake: Way back in the episode “Two Dozen and One Greyhounds”, Bart explained that he was out of clean socks and had to wear some of his sister’s to school.  Homer angrily confronts him: “How do you explain the culottes, boy?”  “I had to coordinate, didn’t I?”

I guess Bart’s position on culottes has changed. Maybe he learned a bitter lesson that day.

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How Common is Your Kink?

Researchers at the University of Montreal conducted a study of 1,517 Québécois (799 men and 718 women) and asked them if they have sexual fantasies involving various topics. They then tallied up the results so we could see how common or uncommon each fantasy is.

Of course what we care about is how common are crossdressing fantasies. Of the respondents, 6.9% of the women and 10% of the men expressed an interest. Although as an interesting corollary, most women did NOT wish the fantasy to be real, while most men did.

Here is a link to the complete news article summarizing the study, along with a table listing all the fantasies by prevalence.

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Revisionist History

I support transgender rights, even though I myself have never understood the conviction that one was born the wrong sex and this is a mistake which should be altered surgically.  But I think this article carries those rights “a chromosome too far”, as it were:

U.S. transgenders welcome an easier path to altering birth papers

The idea is that for transgender people, there is some bureacratic, legal, and psychological distress if their birth certificate says they were born one sex but their personal identity and/or drivers license etc. say another. Therefore, the argument goes, this distress should be eliminated by allowing them to retroactively edit their birth documents to reflect their new sex.

I say, no.  No good ever comes of revisionist history.  Should my wife go back and alter her birth certificate to show the new name she received when we got married? (she has, in fact, run into bureacratic difficulty when her birth name and married name don’t match, and she did not have access to the documentation proving she was married).  Should I have the hospital alter my birth records to show my current height and weight, since I’m clearly not the same person I was when I was born?

You want to establish a new life as a new you and present as a person of the opposite sex? Great, go forth and do so, with or without the surgical changes to accompany that.  Change your name, force the courts to allow the new sex on your drivers license, use whichever bathroom you want. But don’t go screwing around with history. That will serve only to bollix up genealogical studies, census counts, and other historical research long after your bones are turned to dust. It will also smooth the way for more convincing identity theft.

I don’t have any reason to disbelieve the assertion that birth document / current document mismatches create difficulty.  So the solution is not to rewrite the past, but to fix the present. Enact laws that make it just as easy to have your current documents accepted with your new sex as it is for married people to have their current documents accepted with their new names.  An employer or lawyer won’t accept the documentation, even when you have medical certificates proving that you have transitioned?  That’s where the problem lies and what we have to fix.

Leave the past alone. The line must be drawn here! This far, no further!

Thoughts? Discuss amongst yourselves.


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