What’s it all about, Ralphie?

This site was created in 2009 to explore gender non-conformity, although I didn’t know that at the time. Is a man who identifies as male, presents as male, but wears dresses really transgender, or crossdressing, or just weird? 50 years of introspection and I’m still not sure.

What this site is NOT about is the male to female transformation process. If your journey has taken you down that road and you wish you could be a girl — part time, full time, any time — I wish you well, but you won’t find anything of interest here. For reasons that have taken ten years and dozens of blog posts for me to explain, that’s not part of who I am. I prefer dresses and skirts to trousers, it’s true, but I wear them on my own terms as a man who happens to like those things. Here you’ll find — and you are encouraged to participate in — discussions on why we do it, what makes us who we are, fashion likes and dislikes, deep theological musings, and how it affects our relationships with friends, lovers, and the world.